THE DIVORCE SCHEME

After the hot and interesting proposal of the Reproductive Health Bill (RH Bill), now comes the bill to legalize divorce in the Philippines. Now, the country is facing another battle between the church and state. This issue has been discussed and talked about in different blog sites from numerous anti and pro citizen both the young and adult sector.

According to dictionary.com, MARRIAGE is the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. while DIVORCE is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part, especially one that releases the husband and wife from matrimonial obligations. Easier read than done it is. The meaning itself of these two words convey to both the church and the state and a lot of the adult population is undergoing difficult situation concerning living together or simply being in a committed relationship.

As opposed to this idea, 60% of the adult population still believes in the sanctified marriage and the significance of living together as a married man and wife. To raise children and assemble a beautiful portrait of one big happy family. It is indeed good to know that there are still a lot of people who believes on the idea but reality bites, 40% is suffering from abusive and malicious partners and is living in a wretched life.

The legalized divorce bill has of course its grounds; under the bill, couples who may apply for divorce include those who have been separated for five years and those already legally separated for two years. Grounds include psychological incapacity, failure to comply with essential marital obligations and irreconcilable differences.

So what is the big predicament? If the law will say that there will be certain grounds before deciding whether they will grant a request for a divorce or not, certainly most people who are not happy anymore can have the chance to be free and live happily on their own or with their children without any suffering and moral abuse.

Most people say that people should have thought not only once but a lot of times first before getting married. Being together and being in the holy matrimony of marriage is a hard work and there are a lot of factors to be considered so it’ll work like commitment, trust, loyalty, sacrifice etc.

On the subject of breaking up and moving on, will the idea of legalizing divorce help Filipinos to grow and learn from relationship mistakes or they will just redo marriage as long as they can to different people?

For me, we all want a happy life and a happy future with someone we can be with and will take care of us for the rest of our lives. I mean, who wouldn’t want to have a complete and happy family? All of us want it and though people who are getting married swore and vow next to God, for sure, He wouldn’t want a husband or a wife to live miserably. He simply just wants us to be happy.